Who is Shelli Gordon
Ahead of our Event in August, we thought we would write a little piece to give people more information about Shelli.
This year, Shelli took part in Britains most brutal of races, the 268mile Spine Race, that is a non-stop race over the Pennine way, in the bleakest of conditions. Not only did she finish 2nd Female, she did it while paying a rather emotional tribute to her late partner, who sadly, took his own life.
In Shelli's own words:
In July this year I found myself part of a large family that previously i didn't really know existed, this was not a family I chose to be a part of and I had no idea of the huge amount of people who were already a part of it by no choice of their own- the ones left behind.
That day now seems so surreal even with a background of a Psychology degree, Policing, and experience of mental health, nothing prepared me for finding Tony, and discovering he had taken his own life, i cut my arms as i smashed the window to get to him, although i knew already it was too late, I took him down and waited for help to arrive, sitting in the sunshine with the world continuing on as if nothing had happened, just waiting for the circus to begin, helpless to be able to change anything.
From Policing I knew the protocol but this time I was on the receiving end of the box filling and paperwork, I felt for the officers attending having to go through this, Tony being so young and a death that just seemed so pointless and preventable, this should not have occurred.
That day my life and my future changed, from planning my sons birthday and school holidays, to suddenly finding myself in a whole new world of grieving my partner our history and the future, running a still new business alone, running a home, being a parent to two children who were massively impacted, looking after my zoo of animals, comforting and speaking to people from all over the country and abroad, dealing with messages, cards, every known social media outlet (i'm not good with techy stuff), organising a funeral, and running out of vases for the flowers being sent, there weren't enough hours in the day, sleep was a couple of restless hours per night and food unfaceable.
That day and in the following weeks I discovered the so much wider impact that the loss of one life has on so so many people and the communities it effects as well as the families involved.
Dedications were held across the Country at Race starts, from road races and trail races to fell races, and ultras to triathlons and local running groups, people ran with pictures of Tony with the hashtag runfortony at Lakeland along with numerous other events, the disbelief was felt unanimously.
Whilst all this was ongoing the reoccurring theme was 'WHY'?
This was not just the reason being questioned, but a total disbelief and incomprehensibility as to how someone like Tony who on the outside had it all (and was very vocal in telling anyone who would listen the same), someone so happy and full of life, who exercised, and succeeded could possibly feel that their only option was suicide.
That someone who was so lively could hide it so well from those closest to him, nothing being said to friends the evening before, nothing said to me who lived and worked with him, how could this be disguised?
In the aftermath and since i've met so many people directly affected by suicide, the reoccurring theme is they weren't the 'typical' candidate of suicide. There is no 'typical' candidate everyone is at risk when mental health takes over your brain, it doesn't function the way it would normally, there isn't any rationalisation, or thoughts of loved ones, no thought to how they will cope, or the impact of finding you, the sleepless nights with children that can't sleep apart from in your bed, the nightmares and daytime flashbacks.
Taken from her Charity Page
I want to make changes and the only way to do that is to make mental health awareness visible to everyone to make sure that its ok to talk, and its ok to not be ok, to seek help, to support those needing help and to look out for each other. This is the only way to make this disease stop!!
We are so excited to be able to have this fantastic woman, come and speak at an event, to share her story, to run with us and to raise awareness for Men's mental health.
As of time of writing this article, Shelli has raised over £28,000 for Campaign Against Living Miserably
We look forward to welcoming her to the Holme Valley Mountain Rescue centre in August 2019